tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11098933436948542892024-02-06T22:34:44.634-08:00Orange County Divorce AttorneyOrange County Divorce Attorneys<br>
23120 Alicia Pkwy<br>
Suite 200<br>
Mission Viejo, CA 92692<br>
(949) 370-8000<br>
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a> <br>
<a href="mailto:bob@ocdlaw.com">bob@ocdlaw.com</a><br><br>
Divorce attorneys practicing all areas of family law: divorce, child custody, child support, spousal support, premarital agreements, marital agreements and litigation.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-23310041576763601172015-03-04T22:20:00.000-08:002015-06-04T00:23:46.138-07:00Who Says Size Doesn't Matter?<span style="color: #cccccc; font-family: Arial;">Nigerian woman files for divorce because her husband's penis is "to big"</span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="color: #cccccc; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Aish Dannupawa asks court to dissolve one-week marriage</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">She complained husband Ali Maizinan's manhood was too large</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Told court "We had sex but the experience was a nightmare'</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2979363/Nigerian-woman-files-divorce-husband-s-penis-big.html#ixzz3TUOtbj30" rel="nofollow">Link to the full story</a></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Wow!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><br /></span>
<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Arial;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a></span></div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Robert Beauchamp</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
bob@ocdlaw.com</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
23120 Alicia Pkwy</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Second Floor</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Mission Viejo, CA 92692</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Tel: 949-370-8000</div>
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
Fax: 855-370-8100</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-58850053977342007572015-02-20T10:45:00.000-08:002015-06-04T00:24:58.085-07:00What is Parental Alienation and What Can I Do About It?<h3 class="post-title entry-title" itemprop="name" style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: normal; margin: 0.75em 0px 0px; position: relative;">
What is Parental Alienation and What Can I Do About It?</h3>
<div class="post-header" style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1.5em;">
<div class="post-header-line-1">
</div>
</div>
<div class="post-body entry-content" id="post-body-3792219298946851675" itemprop="description articleBody" style="font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.4; position: relative; width: 540px;">
<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In far too many cases, children become pawns in divorce cases. In fact, in far too many cases, it is the divorce attorneys who, consciously or unconsciously, encourage their clients to withhold the children from the other parent. Unfortunately, the state mandated method for calculating child support is, in large part, responsible for this behavior.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As a divorce and family law attorney with many years of experience in child custody cases, as well as through my own divorce (though my ex and I are now good friends), it is my opinion that there are three primary factors that encourage parental alienation in divorce and child custody cases:</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">1. <u>The Method of Calculating Child Support</u>. Child support paid from the non-custodial parent to the primary custodial parent is, all other things being equal, based upon the amount of time that the children spend with the custodial parent. Stated another way, the more time the custodial parent can keep the children away from the non-custodial parent, the more support the custodial parent receives from the non-custodial parent. Economists will tell you that, all other things being equal, when you pay a person for a behavior, you can be assured that you will get more of that behavior.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">2. <u>The Custodial Parent's Desire to Continue Punish or to Exercise Control Over the Non-Custodial Parent</u>. No one is sane when going through a divorce. Often, one party does not want the divorce. A vindictive custodial parent can cause immense emotional and financial harm to the non-custodial parent by withholding the children from the non-custodial parent. Unfortunately, the insanity of divorce and desire to harm the non-custodial parent both emotionally and financially blinds the offending parent to the fact that such behavior causes severe, long-term harm to the children. Countless studies establish without doubt that children fare much better when, even through and after divorce, they have TWO parents who love them and that children who have had one parent "amputated" by the custodial parent are at dramatically higher risk for emotional problems, delinquency including drug abuse and criminal activity. Moreover, the alienating parent often finds that, in the long-run, the children ultimately rebel against the alienating parent and align tightly with the other parent as soon as they reach an age at which they can express their own opinions.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">3. <u>Societal Pressure</u>. Although "the times they are a changing," the traditional historical custody arrangement was that the children spent alternate weekends with one parent, usually the father, and the balance of the time with the custodial parent, usually the mother. That stereotype is still ingrained in many people's minds. Because, in many cases, one parent is attempting, consciously or unconsciously, to justify the fact that they are divorcing, such parent will attempt to establish that the other parent is unfit, incapable or for other reasons not worthy of having substantial custody time with the children. In so doing, the alienating parent is attempting to convey to the world that the reasons for the divorce were legitimate: that there was something "wrong" with the other parent.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">4. <u>Differing Parenting Styles Combined With a Belief that the Other Parent's Parenting Style is Deficient</u>. People vary in parenting styles. Some are very strict, some or very liberal, some are more involved, some are less involved. Particularly in South Orange County, the term "helicopter parent" has become slang for the parent who must exercise control over and direct every moment of their children's lives. There are other parents who have no problem with their children hopping on their bicycle and disappearing to engage in self-directed activities until a reasonable hour. And, there are parents who fall into the infinite spectrum between the helicopter parent and the more hands off parent. Typically, when these parents end up in divorce and custody battles, the conflict between their parenting styles manifests itself in acute conflict. The fact is, that within reason, both parenting styles are valid, but it can be very difficult for parents to accept the idea that their particular parenting style is superior to the style of their ex.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">5. <u>Turning the Children Into Parents</u>. In many cases, one parent will portray themselves as the victim of the divorce and custody dispute and will seek validation from the child. When this occurs, the child is forced into the unfamiliar, uncomfortable and unnatural role of parent to the "victim" parent. </span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sometimes alienation descends to the level of one parent (or both) making false allegations of various forms of abuse, this is by far the most heinous example of alienation and, unfortunately, often works, at least temporarily. Not only are such actions deplorable, they have dramatic negative impacts on the children resulting in often irreparable harm to the relationship between the child and either parent. Sometimes the alienating parent ends up despised by the child and sometimes the other parent is successfully amputated from the child's life leaving a lasting void and lasting resentment.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">California law provides that preference in custody disputes is to be given to the parent most likely to promote a continuous and healthy relationship with the other parent. If alienation is proven, it will often reduce the custody time share of the alienating parent.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Whether you are the alienating parent or the parent from whom your children are being alienated, you need an experienced divorce attorney to help understand what is happening and why, the give you some perspective on the legal consequences of the situation and to help you discover, assemble and present your evidence so that the best interest of your children is put ahead of your own hurt, betrayal or other conflict that resulted in the divorce in the first place.</span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">That said, the single, simplest, most powerful method to ameliorate parental alienation is to insist that every custody order <span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">require that the parent who’s custody period is ending be required to deliver the child to the other parent to commence that parent’s custody time.</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">This simple requirement dramatically reduces the alienator’s ability to use “home base” in the alienator’s attempts to interfere with the non alienator’s custody time.</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">It also forces the alienator to actually deliver the children to the alienated parent which serves to practical purposes:</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">(i) it conveys non-verbally that regardless of the negative comments made by the alienator, the alienator is still delivering the child to the alienated parent; and (ii) It forces the alienator to either exercise parental authority to require the child to obey the court’s order or face contempt for refusing to obey the court’s custody order.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here are resources discussing the problem of parental alienation and suggestions for dealing with it:</span><br />
<br />
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1589793765&asins=1589793765&linkId=HBATP7EKEENJAEV4&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1481155547&asins=1481155547&linkId=742IZJWUSLOUIMOD&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0557447798&asins=0557447798&linkId=J2FNX6X4ROZLWR23&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0061863262&asins=0061863262&linkId=AZTLXOWVYJOCVFNQ&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1608829588&asins=1608829588&linkId=6Y4HPYH72BXDJKID&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0615662498&asins=0615662498&linkId=QA2ETGVQOWXVPULQ&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;"></iframe><span style="color: #cccccc;"> </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #cccccc; text-align: -webkit-center;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div>
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div style="color: #cccccc;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Arial;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Robert Beauchamp</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
bob@ocdlaw.com</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
23120 Alicia Pkwy</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Second Floor</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Mission Viejo, CA 92692</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Tel: 949-370-8000</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
Fax: 855-370-8100</div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a><br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/what-is-parental-alienation-and-what-can-your-divorce-attorney-do-about-it-" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;">Avvo Guide on Parental Alienation</span></a></div>
</div>
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-2437813318798578602014-11-17T13:22:00.003-08:002015-06-04T00:25:23.252-07:00Stuff that makes people hate our legal systemHow screwed up is our legal system?<br />
<a href="http://www.nbcdfw.com/news/national-international/Woman-Sues-Owners-of-Dog-Killed-by-Her-Pit-Bulls-282827501.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Owner of Pit Bulls who broke into neighbors yard and killed neighbor's dog sues neighbor for $1 million</a>.<br />
<br />
By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
<br />
<div>
<br /></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-52115447807136998282014-09-11T15:16:00.003-07:002015-06-04T00:26:05.528-07:00Divorce attorney sues celebrity matchmaker for breach of contract<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">A celebrity matchmaker may have met his
match in a disgruntled divorce lawyer who is seeking monetary damages for fraud
and breach of contract. <a href="http://www.businessinsurance.com/article/20140909/NEWS07/140909853?tags=%7C338%7C69%7C75%7C303"><span style="color: white; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Business Insurance</span></a>
reports:</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 13.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">In a suit filed last week in the
Manhattan Supreme Court, Julie Hyman calls matchmaker Matt Titus a “fraud,”
claiming that instead of a promised eight dates with “highly educated men with
entrepreneurial spirit that were single and not in relationships,” as well as
dating coaching and feedback, she received just “two fake date matches” and no
feedback for the $8,000 she paid upfront.</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">Mr. Titus counters that he did all he
could to find suitable matches for Ms. Hyman.</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">According to court papers, Ms. Hyman
turned to the matchmaker — who was one of the stars of reality dating show
“Matched in Manhattan” — after finding it difficult to meet people.</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">The divorce lawyer says she was
referred to Mr. Titus by celebrity matchmaker Amy Laurent, who is endorsed by
no less than Oprah Winfrey.</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<o:DocumentProperties>
<o:Template>Normal.dotm</o:Template>
<o:Revision>0</o:Revision>
<o:TotalTime>0</o:TotalTime>
<o:Pages>1</o:Pages>
<o:Words>173</o:Words>
<o:Characters>987</o:Characters>
<o:Company>Law Office of Robert Beauchamp</o:Company>
<o:Lines>8</o:Lines>
<o:Paragraphs>1</o:Paragraphs>
<o:CharactersWithSpaces>1212</o:CharactersWithSpaces>
<o:Version>12.0</o:Version>
</o:DocumentProperties>
<o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
<o:AllowPNG/>
</o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:WordDocument>
<w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom>
<w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves>
<w:TrackFormatting/>
<w:PunctuationKerning/>
<w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>
<w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>
<w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/>
<w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>
<w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent>
<w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>
<w:Compatibility>
<w:BreakWrappedTables/>
<w:DontGrowAutofit/>
<w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/>
<w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/>
</w:Compatibility>
</w:WordDocument>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276">
</w:LatentStyles>
</xml><![endif]-->
<!--[if gte mso 10]>
<style>
/* Style Definitions */
table.MsoNormalTable
{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";
mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;
mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;
mso-style-noshow:yes;
mso-style-parent:"";
mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt;
mso-para-margin:0in;
mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt;
mso-pagination:widow-orphan;
font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria;
mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;
mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria;
mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;}
</style>
<![endif]-->
<!--StartFragment-->
<!--EndFragment--><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;">It remains to be seen for whose side
the law will rule — but all, it transpires, truly may not be fair in love and
war.</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 15.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
</div>
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 12px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<div style="margin: 0px;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Second Floor</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 16.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<span style="color: white; font-family: Times; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Times;"><a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
</div>
</div>
<div style="margin: 0px;">
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><br />#orangecountydivorceattorney</span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com21tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-14517558823484440452014-09-05T13:45:00.001-07:002015-06-04T00:26:43.280-07:00Do You Want The Most Aggressive Divorce Attorney? Give Some Thought To What You Mean By "Aggressive Attorney" And to What That Means to Your Case<div style="margin-bottom: 12px;">
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Finding a divorce lawyer is easy. Lawyers are paying upwards of $30.00 to Google for a single click on their paid advertisements in Google search results. There are literally hundreds of them in your area. Many, if not most, of those, advertise: “Aggressive Divorce Lawyer,” “Aggressive Attorney,” and similar such “ad-words.” But what does aggressive mean? </span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">It may be tempting to look for a lawyer who markets her/himself as “aggressive.” But while you want a lawyer who cannot be intimidated, a lawyer as comfortable in court as in his office, do you really want that cardboard cut-out caricature of the aggressive lawyer you may have seen on T.V. Here are some reasons to give that some though.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Aggressive does not mean smart, prepared or effective</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The “aggressive attorney” often makes few friends in the courthouse. I’ve seen and heard judges gossip about the silly antics of one of Orange County’s most “aggressive divorce lawyers.” And, judges don’t take kindly to certain aggressive tactics, such as refusing to agree to a new hearing date or arguing the same point over and over after the judge has ruled. The effective attorney compromises on procedural issues because he or she knows that the case isn’t won or lost in deposition, procedural hearings and/or with tricks. Cases on won based on the facts, the arguments and the attorney’s behind the scenes preparation for trial. Those silly arguments, ranting phone calls, scathing letters and clownish antics all cost you between $300 and $500 an hour and gain you nothing but more billable hours for nothing but a silly side show.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Aggressive attorneys either can’t obtain or, for their own reasons, don’t want settlement</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">You may be certain in your own mind that settlement is impossible. Yet, statistics show otherwise; upwards of 90 percent of cases settle before trial. Settling a case is far cheaper than going to trial. Most attorneys charge a higher rate for trial hours, not to mention the extra costs for preparation, additional hearings, and potential post-trial motions. Since an aggressive attorney will be less likely to compromise, you will have a harder time settling and that will cost you serious dollars. You may be counting on an order that your spouse will ultimately pay your attorneys’ fees, but typically, each party pays his own lawyer.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Aggressive attorneys are often not realistic</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Good attorneys do not become emotionally invested in their clients’ cases. Don’t get me wrong, all attorneys are competitive and they all want to win. But give me any case and I can argue either side. Good attorneys know what the opposition will say before they say it and are prepared to address what they have already prepared for. You need your divorce attorney to explain the factors the court will consider in determining such things as child support, spousal support, visitation, and property division. I n a typical case, one party will not get all the property, all the time with the children, or unending spousal support. An aggressive attorney may not give you a reasonable assessment of the likely outcome, leaving you unprepared for the final settlement or decree. Think of it this way: An “aggressive divorce attorney” can be like the real estate broker who tells you that your house is worth $5 million so you will sign the listing, then, once you are under contract, spends the next six months explaining to you why you need to accept $2 million.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The “aggressive attorney” make it more difficult to work with your ex-spouse down the road</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Divorces are not like other kinds of litigation. In most litigation, the parties are not emotionally involved, they likely never have to see one another, or work with one another, again. In divorce cases, especially with children, you still have to work with your ex regarding shared custody, debts, property, shared expenses for the children and countless other issues for many years after the final paperwork is signed. The aggressive divorce attorney will encourage you to push for more than you will realistically obtain rather than compromise and it make it more difficult to work together in the future.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">What kind of aggressive attorney should you be looking for?</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">In order to win your case without bankrupting you, the kind of aggression you are looking for is not the T.V. kind. Effective lawyers are aggressive in the sense that they know what can be achieved, what the likely outcome will be based on all the facts and will not hesitate to go before a judge to obtain for you what you are entitled to. But, the effective aggressive lawyer doesn’t rant at opposing counsel like some lunatic, argue to the judge points that have already been decided or write hundreds of scathing letters to opposing counsel that have no purpose other than to impress you with how aggressive they are and generate fees for the attorney.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">When the effective aggressive attorney hears a demand from the opposition that is not believed to be in your best interest, he or she simply says, “I’m sorry, but that isn’t acceptable, let’s ask the judge to rule on it.” The effective aggressive lawyer writes one letter for every 10 letters written by the lunatic aggressive lawyer but those fewer letters each of a purpose and are as short as possible.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The reality is that every decent lawyer already knows what the likely outcome of your case is not just on your side, but on the other side as well. The effective attorney is aggressive in that he or she pushes forward on your case, prepares thoroughly for court and does all of that with as little show as necessary.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Just remember, when the opposing attorney makes a demand on your lawyer, it is as effective for your lawyer to simply say“no, thank you, I believe we are entitled to the following . . . . and if you don’t agree, let’s set the earliest possible court date to let the judge decide.” Not only is this just as effective, it costs you far less than a 10 minute tantrum and five scathing letters. </span></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">As a side note, one of the most interesting things I’ve noticed over the years is that the most “aggressive lawyers” are often the least comfortable and/or least effective in court, which may be the very reason they spend all of YOUR money attempting to intimidate rather than prepare for and appear in court. In other words, the effective aggressive lawyer is as comfortable in the courtroom as in his or her own office, but would rather accept a fair settlement than simply run your fee bill up. Put another way, the effective aggressive lawyer is interested in the best possible outcome for you at the most reasonable cost. The typical “aggressive attorney,” the one willing to paying $30 to Google every time someone clicks on his or her paid ad, is often more interested in finding ways for YOU to pay for those ads along with their second home, their new Mercedes and, ironically, their own child and spousal support, through their various their antics.</span></div>
<div style="margin-bottom: 12px;">
<div style="font-size: 13px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: x-small;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><a href="http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/do-you-want-the-most-aggressive-divorce-attorney-give-some-thought-to-what-you-mean-by-aggressive-" target="_blank">Legal Guide on Aggressive Divorce Attorneys</a></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small; letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><br />#orangecountydivorceattorney</span></div>
<div style="margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><br /></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-41919137372407112912014-09-04T14:05:00.001-07:002015-06-04T00:27:51.407-07:00Famous wedding resort to offer "divorce packages"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMAaddxFf7vVal_i5IW42jMDif3VTZfEmX8TthurNQreAwOhavo7_7oaaCK_rW7r8AnEatnsHpnCfDwZX97RCc5coX88ViRS5VhYHLF7AY98kiK8YoqkMKy_rrwUqqnlEvRvcNMct9BJs/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+2.04.28+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="218" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMAaddxFf7vVal_i5IW42jMDif3VTZfEmX8TthurNQreAwOhavo7_7oaaCK_rW7r8AnEatnsHpnCfDwZX97RCc5coX88ViRS5VhYHLF7AY98kiK8YoqkMKy_rrwUqqnlEvRvcNMct9BJs/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+2.04.28+PM.png" width="320" /></a></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">The Saratoga Springs' Gideon Putnam Resort will be
hosting the whole cycle of marriage on weekends: weddings AND divorces.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">As an Orange County divorce attorney, and a
proponent of mediation, I found this notion fascinating;<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="http://The New York Post reports" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The New York Post reports</a>: An upstate resort famous for its lavish weddings
will ironically serve as the venue for “Divorce Hotel” — a business that
promises couples a painless split in an idyllic setting.<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">For a flat $5,000 fee, the divorcing parties are
put up in separate rooms at Saratoga Springs’ Gideon Putnam Resort for a
weekend and work with a mediator to finalize the details into a signed
agreement.<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">“Practically, they are divorced after signing on
Sunday,” founder Jim Halfens, who already runs similar projects in his native
Netherlands, told The Post. “After signing, all work is done and we send it to
a judge who only puts a stamp on it to make it official.”<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Halfens expects to start up his services at the end
of September.<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">He believes the main clientele will be New Yorkers
looking for a speedy split — but any US citizens can participate as long as
they agree to use the provided mediators and lawyers.<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Some guests will participate in a reality TV show,
but most will conduct their marriage terminations in private.<span style="mso-font-kerning: .5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<br /></div>
<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<o:DocumentProperties>
<o:Template>Normal.dotm</o:Template>
<o:Revision>0</o:Revision>
<o:TotalTime>0</o:TotalTime>
<o:Pages>1</o:Pages>
<o:Words>195</o:Words>
<o:Characters>1113</o:Characters>
<o:Company>Law Office of Robert Beauchamp</o:Company>
<o:Lines>9</o:Lines>
<o:Paragraphs>2</o:Paragraphs>
<o:CharactersWithSpaces>1366</o:CharactersWithSpaces>
<o:Version>12.0</o:Version>
</o:DocumentProperties>
<o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
<o:AllowPNG/>
</o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:WordDocument>
<w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom>
<w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves>
<w:TrackFormatting/>
<w:PunctuationKerning/>
<w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>
<w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>
<w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/>
<w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>
<w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent>
<w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>
<w:Compatibility>
<w:BreakWrappedTables/>
<w:DontGrowAutofit/>
<w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/>
<w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/>
</w:Compatibility>
</w:WordDocument>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276">
</w:LatentStyles>
</xml><![endif]-->
<!--[if gte mso 10]>
<style>
/* Style Definitions */
table.MsoNormalTable
{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";
mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;
mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;
mso-style-noshow:yes;
mso-style-parent:"";
mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt;
mso-para-margin:0in;
mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt;
mso-pagination:widow-orphan;
font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria;
mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;
mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria;
mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;}
</style>
<![endif]-->
<!--StartFragment-->
<!--EndFragment--><br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">If you can get through your divorce for $5000 through mediation, even as
a divorce attorney, I'm all for it!</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
<br />
#orangecountydivorceattorneyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-91396976774435275242014-09-02T20:14:00.000-07:002015-06-04T00:28:43.880-07:00Why You Need A Premarital Agreement Properly Drafted: Wife of Billionaire Kenneth Griffin Seeks to Invalidate Premarital Agreement<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
</div>
<div style="margin-bottom: 18px;">
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjk2_E0k0KgnPRnZ6LeGE5OMMieiMa1B8dDvN-cUWI7MmyZBOLvMpibWVjAnUqGNdacEj3PuLVUHZGkJrgpaF9vqliGOgx2SUoBogDNROn5-930lecrt9fkX3wgQEUrnUrOmCLzrnG1k0w/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+12.21.34+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="231" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjk2_E0k0KgnPRnZ6LeGE5OMMieiMa1B8dDvN-cUWI7MmyZBOLvMpibWVjAnUqGNdacEj3PuLVUHZGkJrgpaF9vqliGOgx2SUoBogDNROn5-930lecrt9fkX3wgQEUrnUrOmCLzrnG1k0w/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+12.21.34+PM.png" width="320" /></a></div>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="margin-bottom: 18px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">According </span>to<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> the <a href="http://www.chicagotribune.com/business/breaking/chi-ken-griffin-divorce-anne-diaz-griffin-prenup-20140902-story.html" target="_blank">Chicago Tribune</a>, Anne Dias Griffin, whose hedge-fund billionaire husband, Kenneth Griffin, filed for divorce in July, asked a Cook County Circuit Court to declare their prenuptial agreement invalid and to award her an “equitable” share of the couple’s property.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
According to her court filings, t<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">he basis for her claim that the premarital agreement should be invalidated is that Ken Griffin didn’t provide her with a copy of the premarital agreement until shortly before their 2003 wedding and that she was coerced into signing it three hours before their wedding rehearsal dinner. </span></div>
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">She asked a Cook County Circuit Court to declare their prenuptial agreement invalid and to award her an “equitable” share of the couple’s property.</span></div>
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
Make sure that you consult an experienced divorce attorney when considering a premarital agreement. Premarital agreements are enforceable but only if properly drafted and if formalities are followed including the passage of 7 days between the date the final draft is presented to both sides before the parties sign the agreement.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-79087793032150523412014-08-27T10:12:00.001-07:002015-06-04T00:29:21.921-07:00Court Records Shed Light on Holzer Murders: Nicolas and Ex-Wife Juana Exchanged Accusations of Sexual Abuse Against SonsGoleta, California: "Nicolas Holzer, accused of killing his mother and father and two sons last week, made his first court appearance less than 48 hours after police responded to the bloody scene. The 45-year-old man, who allegedly fatally stabbed his family and their dog using two kitchen knives, was charged with four counts of first-degree murder and one count of animal cruelty." <br />
<br />
"The incident raises questions of how a man who apparently stabbed his parents and two young sons was able to gain full custody of his children from ex-wife Juana Holzer seven years earlier. “It was a case of money and power that took the kids away from Juana,” said Juana’s current boyfriend, Charles Sirois, in an email." <br />
<br />
What is really shocking is that a therapist was assigned to work with both children and made reports to Child Welfare Services. Sadly, no one involved in the custody battle, not the courts, not the therapist and not social services, picked up on the danger to the children.<br />
<br />
These parties were making allegations of domestic violence of abuse against each other, all too easy to do, and no one was able to sort out who was telling the truth until it was too late.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.independent.com/news/2014/aug/21/court-records-shed-light-holzer-murders/" target="_blank">Holzer case demonstrates holes in the child custody process</a><br />
<br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><a href="http://www.ocdlaw.com/"></a><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a></span><br />
<br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-14216569583034453612014-08-26T21:02:00.003-07:002015-02-18T11:10:04.145-08:00** Neil Young files for divorce from his wife Pegi Young after more than 36 years of marriage<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYJLhCkZkWCiHC6Nc4yCXFBTn55mRwSLmG3UZhZlQgcyfBLJ0WpLwM7i0VZTP22CCfQ8CxmZGZbC8mq3I7Cd6Kkd3Ta-Ku0pjYqF4ge1VyitXTQmOif5b0b-ABZYMMfWDqXG_xutKIfTU/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+12.20.15+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYJLhCkZkWCiHC6Nc4yCXFBTn55mRwSLmG3UZhZlQgcyfBLJ0WpLwM7i0VZTP22CCfQ8CxmZGZbC8mq3I7Cd6Kkd3Ta-Ku0pjYqF4ge1VyitXTQmOif5b0b-ABZYMMfWDqXG_xutKIfTU/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-09-04+at+12.20.15+PM.png" height="132" width="320" /></a></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">According to the website Eonline this afternoon, Neil Young filed for divorce from his wife Pegi Young after more than 36 years of marriage.</span></div>
<div style="min-height: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">According to Eonline, “the Canadian-born "Harvest" singer has filed for divorce from wife and Bridge School founder Pegi Young after more than 36 years of marriage, according to public records. His petition for dissolution of marriage not involving a minor child was entered July 29 in Superior Court of San Mateo County.</span><br />
<div style="min-height: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The duo have maintained a home in La Honda, in northern California, for years.</span><br />
<div style="min-height: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">A hearing is scheduled for Dec. 12. A rep for Young hasn't yet returned a request for comment.”</span><br />
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295992995">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="http://www.ocdlaw.com/"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">w</span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">ww.ocdlaw.com</span></a><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-86760917077738609132014-08-26T20:16:00.000-07:002015-06-04T00:29:45.417-07:00Divorces rise as economy recovers, study finds<div class="MsoNormalCxSpFirst" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">The Los Angeles Times has reported that studies are showing that as the economy has started to recover, the
number of divorces has risen. </span><a href="http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-divorce-rebound-20140128-story.html" target="_blank">Divorces Rise as Economy Improves</a><br />
<br />
"Divorces plunged when the recession
struck and slowly started to rise as the recovery began, according to a study
to be published in Population Research and Policy Review."</div>
<div class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">This isn't a surprise to Orange County divorce attorneys. Sadly, business is picking up.</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormalCxSpMiddle" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;"><br /></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
Robert Beauchamp<br />
Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp<br />
bob@ocdlaw.com<br />
23120 Alicia Pkwy<br />
Second Floor<br />
Mission Viejo, CA 92692<br />
Tel: 949-370-8000<br />
Fax: 855-370-8100<br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-58884374275152337812014-08-24T09:05:00.000-07:002015-06-04T00:30:17.779-07:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNq7K89MhNsxJRKSh3y0Cw0SCF4GHlsD7wYYVQBNgG6NdlFKOCTVVom3sA7-SMDbazLPokK78ggzMVwABs-q-bJKMucRR9w0zq-vH7blhRvO8KIuq9v0yU7kiN9iRV8S_5j4iC4N7M_Z8/s1600/bobtrees+big.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="274" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNq7K89MhNsxJRKSh3y0Cw0SCF4GHlsD7wYYVQBNgG6NdlFKOCTVVom3sA7-SMDbazLPokK78ggzMVwABs-q-bJKMucRR9w0zq-vH7blhRvO8KIuq9v0yU7kiN9iRV8S_5j4iC4N7M_Z8/s1600/bobtrees+big.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>
<h1 style="font-family: Georgia; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; margin: 0px 0px 3px; padding: 0px;">
</h1>
<h1 style="font-family: Georgia; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1em; margin: 0px 0px 3px; padding: 0px;">
<span style="font-size: x-large;"><a href="http://hollywoodlife.com/2014/08/22/nick-cannon-mariah-carey-divorce-custody-battle-twins/" target="_blank">Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon Split: Custody Battle Over the Twins?</a></span></h1>
<div>
<br />
It doesn't matter how rich you are, how famous you are or who you are. Divorce happens and child custody litigation can be tough on your kids and on you. You need the right divorce attorney with experience in child custody litigation.</div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Arial;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
Robert Beauchamp<br />
Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp<br />
bob@ocdlaw.com<br />
23120 Alicia Pkwy<br />
Second Floor<br />
Mission Viejo, CA 92692<br />
Tel: 949-370-8000<br />
Fax: 855-370-8100<br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-75670933972913505662014-08-22T14:15:00.002-07:002015-06-04T00:30:44.637-07:00Making Joint Custody Work In Real Life<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">As a divorce and child custody attorney in Orange County, I have two types of cases: Those in which the parents divorce amicably and focus primarily on how they can work together for the best interests of the children and those in which the parties can’t stand each other and, consciously or unconsciously, interact with the children in a way that undermines the other parent.</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Unfortunately, the latter outnumber the former 100 to 1. </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be posting some thoughts on ways in which two parents can become parents who can overcome their own differences in order to minimize the impact of divorce on the children and, hopefully, find a way to at least learn to get along well enough to mutually enjoy their children’s activities and life events (birthdays, graduations, weddings and the like).</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Sharing child custody is rarely easy, in large part because you're trying to coordinate with someone you couldn't stand being married to. Nevertheless, studies show that shared-custody works best when both parents are cooperative, respectful, agree on shared custody, and manage their emotions.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Believe me, I know what you are going through, because I have been there myself. Some might say that sharing my personal experiences violates some boundary or other, but as a child custody and divorce attorney, I will do all that I can to help others see that a peaceful arrangement can be reached. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">When there are problems in co-parenting, in my experience at least, the problem almost always results from one or both parents attempting to exert control over the other parent through the children. Both in my practice and in my own divorce, I have seen this repeatedly. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Extracurricular Activities:</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Extracurricular Activities are a fertile source of conflict, particularly in the early stages of co-parenting during and after divorce. For example, one parent schedules activities that conflict with the custody time of the other parent OR the custody order says that both parents must agree on any extra-curricular activities and one parent always, or almost always, refuses to consent to, or participate in, such activities.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Both as a parent sharing custody and as an Orange County divorce and child custody attorney, I ask myself, and my clients this question: “is this an activity in which the child participated, or in which the child would have participated, if you and your ex were still married?” To me, the answer to that question is the deciding factor. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">If, being as objective as possible, you conclude that this is an activity in which you would have allowed, or encouraged, your child to participate during your marriage, you need to set aside whatever reluctance you have and agree to, and participate in, the activity. The goal here is to minimize the impact of your divorce on the children. You can despise your ex as much as you want, though you’ll later see that there is a better way. Still, however much you hate your ex, if you love your children, you’ll set aside your own issues and those of your ex for the benefit of your children.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Another issue that can be tough is attending the children’s activities that occur during the other parent’s custody time. If, for example, your child is in little league, attend all the games and practices that you would have attended if you were still married to your ex - err even on the side of attending more. And, don’t be offended or resistant if your ex attends activities during your custody time. The goal is happy children, not happy parents, although the latter is more likely if you follow these principles. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Neither my ex nor I would deny that there was a time during which we could not stand the site of each other. Even a brief perusal of our respective declarations in support of this or that OSC or Request for Order would show that, even as attorneys, we were people first and lawyers second. We had, and have, every one of the same feelings and emotions as any other couple going through a divorce and custody battle. We both made mistakes arising out of our own unhealthy emotions at the expense of our children. With time, however, following the principles in this post, we have reached the point at which we actually like each other again. Though I have remarried, my ex and I now have a relationship that is akin to adult siblings. We have re-discovered the things we liked about each other and have gotten beyond the things we couldn’t stand about each other.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">And, we didn’t get there because we worked on our relationship as ex’s, but because each of us independently awoke to the fact that we only had one thing worthy of leaving behind when we are dead and gone, and that one thing our children, damaged as little as possible by our conflicts and divorce and as emotionally healthy as possible despite our divorce. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">As a result, my new wife and I often meet my ex and the kids, regardless of who’s custody time it is, to attend the kid’s activities, to have dinner together, either at a restaurant or at one of our homes. We allow our dog, whom I got after the divorce, to spend time with my ex while she had the children - not always, but whenever the kids ask.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><br /></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0px;">Many of you are reading this now, saying to yourselves: "This would never work with my ex!" I know that </span><span style="font-family: Arial;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">because I was one of you. You may be right at any given moment in time. But, your children will suffer more than necessary if you and your ex cannot put the children ahead of your own conflicts. Keep an open mind and watch for any sign that your ex would be receptive to an opening to discuss cooperation. Sometimes that receptivity arises when one parent begins to lose control of the behavior of one or more of the children as they get older, more advanced in their own preferences, etc. In almost all cases, this will eventually occur.</span></span><br />
<div>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-42173325369611169412014-05-22T17:05:00.000-07:002015-06-04T00:31:15.451-07:00How Do I Get a Domestic Violence Restraining Order?<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">What Is Domestic Violence?</span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Domestic violence is abuse or threats of abuse when the person being
abused and the abuser are or have been in an intimate relationship (married or
domestic partners, are dating or used to date, live or lived together, or have
a child together). It is also when the abused person and the abusive person are
closely related by blood or by marriage.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The domestic violence laws say “abuse” is:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Physically
hurting or trying to hurt someone, intentionally or recklessly;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Sexual
assault;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Making
someone reasonably afraid that they or someone else are about to be seriously
hurt (like threats or promises to harm someone); OR<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Behavior
like harassing, stalking, threatening, or hitting someone; disturbing someone’s
peace; or destroying someone’s personal property.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Physical abuse is not just hitting. Abuse can be kicking, shoving,
pushing, pulling hair, throwing things, scaring or following you, or keeping
you from freely coming and going. It can even include physical abuse of the
family pets.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Also, keep in mind that the abuse in domestic violence does not have to
be physical. Abuse can be verbal (spoken), emotional, or psychological. You do
not have to be physically hit to be abused. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Often, abuse takes many forms, and abusers use a combination
of tactics to control and have power over the person being abused. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If you are being abused in any of these ways or you feel afraid or
controlled by your partner or someone you are close with, Call 911.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once you are safe, immediately call the
Law Office of Robert R. Beauchamp, <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">Orange County Divorce Lawyers</a> experienced in
domestic violence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Domestic Violence Restraining Orders<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">A domestic violence restraining order is a court order that helps
protect people from abuse or threats of abuse from someone they have a close
relationship with. You can ask for a domestic violence restraining order if:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">A person has abused (or threatened to abuse) you; AND<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">You have a close relationship with that person, meaning that you are:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Married
or registered domestic partners,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Divorced
or separated,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Dating
or used to date,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Living
together or used to live together(more than roommates),<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Parents
together of a child, OR<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Closely
related (parent, child, brother, sister, grandmother, grandfather, in-law).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If you are a parent and your child is being abused, you can also file a
restraining order on behalf of your child to protect your child (and you and
other family members). If your child is 12 or older, he or she can file the
restraining order on his or her own.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If you do not qualify for a domestic violence restraining order, there
are other kinds of orders you can ask for:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Civil
harassment restraining order (can be used for neighbors, roommates, coworkers,
or more distant family members like cousins, uncle or aunt, etc.).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Elder
or dependent adult abuse restraining order (if the person being abused is 65 or
older; or between 18 and 64 and a dependent adult). <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Workplace
violence restraining order (filed by an employer to protect an employee from
violence, stalking, or harassment by another person).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If you are not sure what kind of restraining order you should get, talk
to an<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Orange County Divorce
Attorney at the Law Office of Robert R. Beauchamp 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
</span><b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">What a restraining order CAN do<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">A restraining order is a court order. It can order the restrained person
to:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Not
contact or go near you, your children, other relatives, or others who live with
you;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Stay
away from your home, work, or your children’s schools;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Move
out of your house (even if you live together);<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Not
have a gun;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Follow
child custody and visitation orders;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Pay
child support;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Pay
spousal or partner support (if you are married or domestic partners);<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Stay
away from any of your pets;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Pay
certain bills; and<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l4 level1 lfo5; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Release
or return certain property.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Once the court issues (makes) a restraining order, the order is entered
into a statewide computer system (called CLETS) that all law enforcement
officers have access to. And your restraining order works anywhere in the
United States. If you move out of California, contact your new local police so
they will know about your orders.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If you move to California with a restraining order from another state,
or if you have a restraining order issued by a tribal court (in California or
elsewhere in the U.S.), your restraining order will be valid anywhere
in California and the police will enforce it. If you want your restraining
order to be entered into California’s statewide domestic violence computer system,
you can register your order with the court. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But keep in mind that you are not required to register your
out-of-state or tribal court restraining order. A valid order is enforceable
even if you do not register it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">What a restraining order CANNOT do<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">A restraining order cannot:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>End
your marriage or domestic partnership. It is NOT a divorce.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l5 level1 lfo6; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Establish
parentage (paternity) of your children with the restrained person (if you are
not married to, or in a domestic partnership with, him or her) UNLESS you and
the restrained person agree to parentage of your child or children and agree to
the court entering a judgment about parentage. Read and use <i>Agreement and
Judgment of Parentage </i>(<a href="http://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/dv180.pdf"><span style="color: windowtext;">Form
DV-180</span></a>) to do this.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Effect of a restraining order on the restrained
person<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">For the person to be restrained, the consequences of having a court
order against him or her can be very severe.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>He
or she will not be able to go to certain places or to do certain things.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>He
or she might have to move out of his or her home.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>It
may affect his or her ability to see his or her children.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>He
or she will generally not be able to own a gun. (He or she will have to turn in
or sell any firearms he or she has, and will not be able to buy a gun while the
restraining order is in effect.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l6 level1 lfo7; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>The
restraining order may affect his or her immigration status. If you are worried
about this, talk to an immigration lawyer to find out if you will be affected.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If the person to be restrained violates the restraining order, he or she
may go to jail, or pay a fine, or both.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Types of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Emergency Protective Order (EPO)</span></b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"> An EPO is a type of restraining order that
only law enforcement can ask for by calling a judge. Judges are available to
issue EPOs 24 hours a day. So, a police officer that answers a domestic
violence call can ask a judge for an emergency protective order at any time of
the day or night.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The emergency protective order starts right away and can last up to 7
days. The judge can order the abusive person to leave the home and stay away
from the victim and any children for up to a week. That gives the victim of the
abuse enough time to go to court to file for a temporary restraining order.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">To get an order that lasts longer than an EPO, you must ask the court
for a temporary restraining order (also called a “TRO”).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)</span></b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"> When you go to court to ask for a domestic
violence restraining order, you fill out paperwork where you tell the judge
everything that has happened and why you need a restraining order. If the judge
believes you need protection, he or she will give you a temporary restraining
order.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Temporary restraining orders usually last between 20 and 25 days, until
the court hearing date.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">“Permanent” Restraining Order</span></b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"> When you go to court for the hearing that was
scheduled for your TRO, the judge may issue a “permanent” restraining order.
They are not really “permanent” because they usually last up to 3 years.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">At the end of those 3 years (or whenever your order runs out), you can
ask for a new restraining order so you remain protected.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Criminal Protective Order or “Stay-Away” Order</span></b><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"> Sometimes, when there is
a domestic violence incident (or series of incidents), the district attorney
will file criminal charges against the abuser. This starts a criminal court
case going. It is common for the criminal court to issue a criminal protective
order against the defendant (the person who is committing the violence and abuse)
while the criminal case is going on, and, if the defendant is found guilty or
pleads guilty, for 3 years after the case is over.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The Restraining Order Process<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">When someone asks for a domestic violence restraining order in court,
they have to file court forms telling the judge what orders they want and why.
What happens after that varies a little from court to court, but the general
steps in the court case are:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The person wanting protection files court forms asking for the domestic
violence restraining order. There is NO fee to file.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The judge will decide whether or not to make the order by the next
business day. Sometimes the judge decides sooner.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If the judge grants (gives) the orders requested, he or she will first
make “temporary” orders that only last until your court date. The court date
will be on the paperwork. These temporary orders can include issues like:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Ordering
the restrained person to stay away and have no contact with the protected
person (and other protected people and family pets);<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Child
custody;<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Who
can use the family home; or<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Who
can use other property, like a car.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The person asking for protection will have to “serve” the other person
with a copy of all the restraining order papers before the court date. This
means that someone 18 or older (NOT involved in the case) must hand-deliver a
copy of all the papers to the restrained person.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The restrained person has the right to file an answer to the restraining
order request, explaining his or her side of the story.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Both sides go to the court hearing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>If
the protected person does not go to the hearing, the temporary restraining
order will usually end that day and there will not be a restraining order.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 1.0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level2 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 47.0pt 1.0in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -1.0in;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>If
the restrained person does not go to the hearing, he or she will have no input
in the case and his or her side of the story will not be taken into account.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">7.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">At the hearing, the judge will decide to continue or cancel the
temporary restraining order. If the judge decides to extend the temporary
order, the “permanent” order may last for up to 5 years.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: .5in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l7 level1 lfo8; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">8.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">If the judge also makes other orders in the restraining order, like
child custody or child support orders, these orders will have different end
dates and usually will last until the child turns 18 or a judge changes them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<b><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">Getting Help<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">You do not need a lawyer to ask for (or respond to) a restraining order.
BUT it is a good idea to have a lawyer, especially if you have children.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<o:DocumentProperties>
<o:Template>Normal.dotm</o:Template>
<o:Revision>0</o:Revision>
<o:TotalTime>0</o:TotalTime>
<o:Pages>1</o:Pages>
<o:Words>1634</o:Words>
<o:Characters>9318</o:Characters>
<o:Company>Law Office of Robert Beauchamp</o:Company>
<o:Lines>77</o:Lines>
<o:Paragraphs>18</o:Paragraphs>
<o:CharactersWithSpaces>11443</o:CharactersWithSpaces>
<o:Version>12.0</o:Version>
</o:DocumentProperties>
<o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
<o:AllowPNG/>
</o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:WordDocument>
<w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom>
<w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves>
<w:TrackFormatting/>
<w:PunctuationKerning/>
<w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>
<w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>
<w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/>
<w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>
<w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent>
<w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>
<w:Compatibility>
<w:BreakWrappedTables/>
<w:DontGrowAutofit/>
<w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/>
<w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/>
</w:Compatibility>
</w:WordDocument>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276">
</w:LatentStyles>
</xml><![endif]-->
<!--[if gte mso 10]>
<style>
/* Style Definitions */
table.MsoNormalTable
{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";
mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;
mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;
mso-style-noshow:yes;
mso-style-parent:"";
mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt;
mso-para-margin:0in;
mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt;
mso-pagination:widow-orphan;
font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria;
mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;
mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria;
mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;}
</style>
<![endif]-->
<!--StartFragment-->
<!--EndFragment--><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">The court process can be confusing and intimidating. Both people will
have to see each other in court, and both will have to tell the judge details
of what happened in a public courtroom. Having a lawyer or (for the protected
person) support from domestic violence experts can help make the process easier
to handle.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Arial;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp</span></div>
Robert Beauchamp<br />
Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp<br />
bob@ocdlaw.com<br />
23120 Alicia Pkwy<br />
Second Floor<br />
Mission Viejo, CA 92692<br />
Tel: 949-370-8000<br />
Fax: 855-370-8100<br />
<a href="https://orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer/">orangecountydivorceattorney.lawyer</a><br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/what-is-domestic-violence-and-how-do-i-get-a-domestic-violence-restraining-order-" target="_blank">Avvo Guide - Domestic Violence</a><br />
<a href="http://www.occourts.org/self-help/restrainingorders/domesticviolence.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Link to Orange County Superior Court Guide and Domestic Violence Forms</a></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-35745372660004304502014-05-21T16:56:00.002-07:002015-02-18T11:12:45.360-08:00Lost Boys: Jason Patric, Sperm Donors, Surrogates and Parenthood<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Paternity and Divorce attorneys are a twitter.</span><br />
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><br /></span>
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Jason Patric, best known as the star of "The Lost Boys, has dated some of the most glamorous starlets of the past two decades. But, it's his role as a father that has most recently launched public scrutiny into some of the most private aspects of his life.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Three years ago Patric’s former girlfriend, Danielle Schreiber, asked him to help conceive a baby.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">In a television interview with 20/20, Patric admitted: “I’ve been in a lot of relationships.” "I was always worried about having a child. ... But I was with someone, and I was at a certain age, [with] someone that I trusted and I loved. And so I said, 'Well, we can try this route.'"</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">A year later, their son, Gus, was born through the miracle of in vitro fertilization and for the next two years, Patric says, he was at the house every day.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">But while Patric’s love for his son grew, his relationship Schreiber spiraled in the other direction.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Patric maintains that he has always had every intention to maintain a parenting relationship with the child and maintains that he never would have agreed to participate in IVF had he known Schreiber might not have wanted him to be the father. He maintains that he was always going to be the intended parent and so indicated on the IVF form on which he indicated that he was the intended father.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">In 2012, Patric filed a petition to establish paternity. He lost in the trial court, which denied Patric custody and visitation of his four-year-old son, Gus, based on a California statute that provides that sperm donors do not have parental rights or responsibilities. But the case took a recent twist when the California Court of Appeals distinguished the case from a true sperm donor situation, upholding the paternity rights of a sperm donor who has demonstrated a close and committed relationship with his child.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The decision set a new legal precedent in the state for the rights of sperm donors. Interpreting state family law, California courts had never recognized a right of a sperm donor who isn’t married to the mother to make a paternity claim. “[A] sperm donor who has established a familial relationship with the child, and has demonstrated a commitment to the child and the child’s welfare, can be found to be a presumed parent even though he could not establish paternity based upon his biological connection to the child,” wrote Justice Thomas Willhite of the Second District Court of Appeal.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Patric’s victory could have implications beyond California, according to various law professors and practitioners. Georgetown University’s Jeffrey Shulman described it as an “important decision” for fathers’ rights.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">“It serves as a cautionary note to mothers that there’s more than one route to seek paternity,” Mr. Shulman said.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Ms. Schreiber in court papers pointed to a California statute restricting the parental rights of sperm donors. That statute was intended to allow men to donate sperm without fear of liability for child support. But the appeals court said that the statute had been applied too broadly. In the case of Mr. Patric’s custody dispute, the court said, it was supplanted by another law that says a father is presumed to be the natural parent of a child if the parent “receives the child into his or her home and openly holds out the child as his or her natural child.”</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The ruling “confirms the idea in the law that a biological parent can seek to establish a paternal right on the basis of having seized the opportunity to act like a parent,” said Mr. Shulman.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The ruling could also have repercussions for an unexpected population — women who use fertility treatments. Legal experts say the ruling could lead to changes in cases in which a man donates sperm to a woman he knows and then maintains a relationship with the child.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Patric's legal victory doesn't just impact heterosexual couples; it could also affect same-sex couples who have friends or acquaintances serve as sperm or egg donors.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The decision doesn't completely resolve Patric's fight to reunite with Gus. The "Lost Boys" actor must still prove to a Los Angeles judge that he qualifies as a father through his actions.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">But the ruling definitely portends problems when a man donates sperm to a woman he knows or when a woman donates and egg to a person she knows then, as in Patric's case, begins to establish a paternal relationship with the child.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">The ruling should prompt women receiving sperm donations, women receiving egg donations and surrogates for individuals they know should think twice about whether they maintain a relationship with the donor. Doing so could lead to to being designated later by a court to be a parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">In the wake of the ruling, one should have to have a clear understanding from the minute the child's born, and even before, about what relationships are allowed with the child. Once you start the relationship, the court is going to allow the relationship to blossom.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; margin-bottom: 12px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">No doubt the case is rare, but the scenario is likely to come up more frequently as reproductive technology advances and more same-sex and unmarried couples employ the procedures to start families. And women won't be the only ones having to make difficult decisions at the fertility clinic. The key will be establishing immediately that you want to be the parent of the child.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993029">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-14597149917736149472014-05-21T12:45:00.003-07:002015-02-18T11:13:25.884-08:00What Are the Signs and Symptoms of Parental Alienation in Child Custody Cases?<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Without diminishing the existence and impact of alienation, it is important to keep in mind that neither party in a divorce is at their best or at their most objective when it comes to their ex. At the same time, it is natural for children to be terribly confused during the divorce process and to independently choose sides for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with intentional conduct by either parent. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Before heading into the signs of alienation, let me point out that the single most powerful thing that can be done to combat parental alienation is to ensure that every custody order requires that the parent who’s custody period is ending be required to deliver the child to the other parent to commence the other parent’s custody time. This simple requirement dramatically reduces the alienator’s ability to use “home base” in the alienator’s attempts to interfere with the non alienator’s custody time. It also forces the alienator to actually deliver the children to the alienated parent which serves two practical purposes: (i) it conveys non-verbally that regardless of the negative comments made by the alienator, the alienator is still delivering the child to the alienated parent; and (ii) It forces the alienator to either exercise parental authority to require the child to obey the court’s order or face contempt for refusing to obey the court’s custody order.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">In my experience as a divorce lawyer handling custody cases over an extended time, I have seen alienation perpetrated by both men and women, by both primary custodial parents and non-custodial parents, by both parents simultaneously and by grandparents and other family members. Regardless of who is engaging in the alienating behavior, they are guilty of causing irreparable harm to the child that can take years to overcome. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">That said, there are any number of identifiable signs or indicators of alienation. Not all indicators appear in all cases, but the following are signs of alienation. These signs should not be viewed in isolation, but in combination, keeping in mind that alienation is a complex problem and that children are independently confused and prone to take sides:</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">1.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Lack of independent thinking; the child imitating the alienator’s thoughts and feelings.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">2.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienating parent tends to seek to curtail all communication between the child and the alienated parent. The alienating parent may destroy mail or gifts from the alienated parent. When the alienated parent shows up to pick up the children, the alienating parent conveys either directly or through the children that the children do no desire to join the alienated parent for that parent’s custody time. When done through the children, the alienating parent will often be standing behind the children. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">3.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Removing pictures of the alienated parent with the chidden and/or ex-spouse, often “justified” by claiming that the act was done because the alienated parent no longer desired to be part of the family.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">4.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienated parent is portrayed as at fault for the divorce and is blamed for all problems encountered by the children and the alienating parent. The alienating parent may refuse to provide things the child likes and blame the alienated parent for not paying sufficient support.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">5.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child calls the alienated parent a liar and other abusive names in a manner similar to the alienating parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">6.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child insults, shows disrespect, and humiliates the alienated parent often on front of the alienator.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">7.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Alienated parents are viewed as being despicable, faulty and deserving of being rejected permanently.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">8.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienating parent claims, often adamantly, that they are encouraging the child to make contact with the alienated parent while seducing the child emotionally, often by scheduling particularly fun or exciting events that conflict with the alienated parent’s custodial time.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">9.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child is made to feel guilty for any love shown towards the alienated parent. The child will deny any involvement with the alienated parent, fearful of losing the approval of the alienator.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">10.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child fears rejection by the alienator if he or she expresses any positive feelings about the alienated parent or any desire to spend time with him or her.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">11.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienating parent views the children as possessions using terms such as “my child” where “our child” would be the appropriate expression. The alienating parent is viewed as all good, all wise, and all powerful by the child who becomes dependent, manipulated by them. There is never questioning that what the parent says or does is always right.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">12.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child tends to paraphrase statements used by the alienating parent. The words used are often untypical of words likely to be used by a child.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">13.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child will speak about exaggerated or contrived abuse that has been experienced from the alienated parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">14.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child or alienating parent makes statements insinuating quasi or actual sexual, emotional, and physical abuse suffered by the child. If the alienated spouse in a new relationship, the alienating parent will suggest that the alienated parent is spending time on the new relationship that should be spent with the child while continuing to curtail the time the child spends with the alienated parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">15.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Where there are allegations of abuse, the language used by the child comes indirectly from the alienator such as, “he touches me inappropriately,” or “he has penetrated me” When the child uses such terms that they do not otherwise use, it is suggestive that the terms were suggested to the child by the alienating parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">16.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Children who are alienated lose the ability to distinguish truth from falsehood in a one-sided manner.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">17.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienated child will often show signs of alienation from the alienated parent’s family.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">18.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienator may alienate the child against a therapist or custody evaluator unless they supports the alienator. Hence the therapist is seen as an enemy in the same light as the alienated parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">19.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The alienated child tends to see themselves in a very powerful position, especially in the severity of their antagonism shown to the alienated parent. This is all done following the programming by the alienator.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">20.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Some alienators move away from where their ex partner resides in order to make visits difficult or impossible.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">21.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Frivolous reasons are given for not wanting to be with the alienated parent. Even when told that if these frivolous reasons are resolved, the child will often claim they do not wish to be with that parent under any circumstances.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">22.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>The child is encouraged to be with friends or play on video games in preference to being with the alienated parent.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">23.<span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>A child who had a history of a good, happy and warm relationship with the now alienated parent before separation or divorce will claim that they do not remember past events with the alienated parent that made the child happy.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; margin-left: 36px; min-height: 16px; text-indent: -36px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span><br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Again, parents must keep in mind that many of these signs can be simply a result of anxiety and confusion by the child resulting from the divorce of parents, the reduction in funds available to support the former lifestyle and generalized anxiety about the situation and the future. Still, in alienation cases, a pattern will emerge and an experienced divorce attorney can help you find solutions.</span></div>
Here are resources discussing the problem of parental alienation and suggestions for dealing with it:<br />
<br />
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1589793765&asins=1589793765&linkId=HBATP7EKEENJAEV4&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1481155547&asins=1481155547&linkId=742IZJWUSLOUIMOD&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0557447798&asins=0557447798&linkId=J2FNX6X4ROZLWR23&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0061863262&asins=0061863262&linkId=AZTLXOWVYJOCVFNQ&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1608829588&asins=1608829588&linkId=6Y4HPYH72BXDJKID&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0615662498&asins=0615662498&linkId=QA2ETGVQOWXVPULQ&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<br />
<span style="background-color: white; text-align: -webkit-center;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div>
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">As a divorce and child custody attorney in Orange County, I have two types of cases: Those in which the parents divorce amicably and focus primarily on how they can work together for the best interests of the children and those in which the parties can’t stand each other and, consciously or unconsciously, interact with the children in a way that undermines the other parent.</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Unfortunately, the latter outnumber the former 100 to 1. </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"> </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll be posting some thoughts on ways in which two parents can become parents who can overcome their own differences in order to minimize the impact of divorce on the children and, hopefully, find a way to at least learn to get along well enough to mutually enjoy their children’s activities and life events (birthdays, graduations, weddings and the like).</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Sharing child custody is rarely easy, in large part because you're trying to coordinate with someone you couldn't stand being married to. Nevertheless, studies show that shared-custody works best when both parents are cooperative, respectful, agree on shared custody, and manage their emotions.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Believe me, I know what you are going through, because I have been there myself. Some might say that sharing my personal experiences violates some boundary or other, but as a child custody and divorce attorney, I will do all that I can to help others see that a peaceful arrangement can be reached. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">When there are problems in co-parenting, in my experience at least, the problem almost always results from one or both parents attempting to exert control over the other parent through the children. Both in my practice and in my own divorce, I have seen this repeatedly. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Extracurricular Activities:</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Extracurricular Activities are a fertile source of conflict, particularly in the early stages of co-parenting during and after divorce. For example, one parent schedules activities that conflict with the custody time of the other parent OR the custody order says that both parents must agree on any extra-curricular activities and one parent always, or almost always, refuses to consent to, or participate in, such activities.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Both as a parent sharing custody and as an Orange County divorce and child custody attorney, I ask myself, and my clients this question: “is this an activity in which the child participated, or in which the child would have participated, if you and your ex were still married?” To me, the answer to that question is the deciding factor. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">If, being as objective as possible, you conclude that this is an activity in which you would have allowed, or encouraged, your child to participate during your marriage, you need to set aside whatever reluctance you have and agree to, and participate in, the activity. The goal here is to minimize the impact of your divorce on the children. You can despise your ex as much as you want, though you’ll later see that there is a better way. Still, however much you hate your ex, if you love your children, you’ll set aside your own issues and those of your ex for the benefit of your children.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Another issue that can be tough is attending the children’s activities that occur during the other parent’s custody time. If, for example, your child is in little league, attend all the games and practices that you would have attended if you were still married to your ex - err even on the side of attending more. And, don’t be offended or resistant if your ex attends activities during your custody time. The goal is happy children, not happy parents, although the latter is more likely if you follow these principles. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">Neither my ex nor I would deny that there was a time during which we could not stand the site of each other. Even a brief perusal of our respective declarations in support of this or that OSC or Request for Order would show that, even as attorneys, we were people first and lawyers second. We had, and have, every one of the same feelings and emotions as any other couple going through a divorce and custody battle. We both made mistakes arising out of our own unhealthy emotions at the expense of our children. With time, however, following the principles in this post, we have reached the point at which we actually like each other again. Though I have remarried, my ex and I now have a relationship that is akin to adult siblings. We have re-discovered the things we liked about each other and have gotten beyond the things we couldn’t stand about each other.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">And, we didn’t get there because we worked on our relationship as ex’s, but because each of us independently awoke to the fact that we only had one thing worthy of leaving behind when we are dead and gone, and that one thing our children, damaged as little as possible by our conflicts and divorce and as emotionally healthy as possible despite our divorce. </span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; min-height: 16px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;">As a result, my new wife and I often meet my ex and the kids, regardless of who’s custody time it is, to attend the kid’s activities, to have dinner together, either at a restaurant or at one of our homes. We allow our dog, whom I got after the divorce, to spend time with my ex while she had the children - not always, but whenever the kids ask.</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0px;">Many of you are reading this now, saying to yourselves: "This would never work with my ex!" I know that </span><span style="font-family: Arial;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">because I was one of you. You may be right at any given moment in time. But, your children will suffer more than necessary if you and your ex cannot put the children ahead of your own conflicts. Keep an open mind and watch for any sign that your ex would be receptive to an opening to discuss cooperation. Sometimes that receptivity arises when one parent begins to lose control of the behavior of one or more of the children as they get older, more advanced in their own preferences, etc. In almost all cases, this will eventually occur.</span></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993032">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a><br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.avvo.com/legal-guides/ugc/what-is-parental-alienation-and-what-can-your-divorce-attorney-do-about-it-" target="_blank">Avvo Guide on Parental Alienation</a></div>
</div>
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-47866658477615254802014-05-21T09:21:00.000-07:002014-09-04T12:13:26.103-07:00Should I Have a Premarital (Prenuptial) Agreement?<span style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px;">Divorce attorneys are much maligned as one of the factors that make divorce more difficult. Sadly, too many divorce attorneys in fact do just that. But, through a premarital agreement, a divorce attorney can help eliminate some of the factors that lead to divorce and, should divorce unfortunately occur, divorce attorneys can make the dissolution of the marriage much simpler and much less expensive through a premarital agreement.</span><br />
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">Premarital agreements seem like relatively recent developments but they have ancient roots. Premarital agreements are mentioned in one form or another in both the Old and New Testaments of the Bible. So, with the wedding season again among us, some couples are doing more than shopping for wedding gowns, ordering flowers, and choosing reception venues. Many couples are discussing the terms of their prenuptial agreements.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">You may be thinking: Is this planning a happy future together, or a divorce?</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">For some people it's a pragmatic idea, but for others, it chills the romance and threatens the chance of a happy marriage. One or the other partner may feel that suggesting a prenup shows a lack of trust and commitment, or attaches a higher value to assets than intimacy.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">The profile of today's bride and groom has changed from the days when two penniless love-birds just starting out could easily tie the knot. Now many couples marry later in life, after becoming successful in their own careers. They may have acquired homes, significant financial assets, and hefty retirements. Children from a previous marriage may need consideration or they may want to avoid the financial sting felt from a prior divorce. And in any event, a protracted divorce settlement is no one's idea of a good time. Given these practical reasons, romance can still flourish if a prenup is approached in a sensible, yet sensitive manner.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">Deciding whether a prenup is right for you and your future spouse is a personal decision, and every situation is unique. But, “timing," “wording” and specific procedural requirements are everything.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">For the best outcome, try to get a general sense of your partner's approach to finances before becoming engaged. Talk openly and honestly about financial situations that you may have to deal with as a couple and express your expectations and anxieties about money.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">When talking about a prenup, choose your words carefully. Phrases like "I want" and "I need" can sound as if you are focused only on yourself and your interests, rather than on the prenup as a mutually beneficial agreement, in place to protect both of you.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">Once engaged, you will still have to work out the particular prenup details, but give yourselves time to enjoy your engagement. Don't talk about a prenup right after you become engaged, and don't wait too long to bring it up. You don't want your fiancé to feel that you are putting money before love, or that you waited until the wedding date was around the corner to bring it up-- both will dampen the romance.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">If you decide on a prenup, each of you will want to have your own legal representation because you want both interests to be equally protected. In addition, there are very specific legal prerequisites to the enforceability of premarital agreements. It is also usually best to retain attorneys who have no special connection to either of you; this keeps negotiations on a neutral keel. And, think about who you choose to represent you. Some lawyers are more sensitive than others in navigating the possible emotional waters.</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;">A prenup is not about distrust, control, or impending doom; it's about planning and protecting finances for both of you. Once the prenup signed, let your lawyers keep the document. Go on your honeymoon, and forget the papers were ever drafted!</span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr;">
<span style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span style="font-size: 12px;">Although you will each need an attorney to ensure that your prenuptial agreement is enforceable if the time should ever come that it is needed, here are some additional resources that may help you evaluate with a prenuptial agreement is right for you and what it should contain in your unique case:</span></span></div>
<div style="direction: ltr;">
<br />
<br />
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=1936140683&asins=1936140683&linkId=E6LSNFF3BOEV3URZ&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0375755357&asins=0375755357&linkId=3R5QUMKKBF5JWYOC&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<iframe frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="//ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&OneJS=1&Operation=GetAdHtml&MarketPlace=US&source=ss&ref=ss_til&ad_type=product_link&tracking_id=lawoffofrobrb-20&marketplace=amazon&region=US&placement=0615948081&asins=0615948081&linkId=5UG5GHDN6MOIGMVR&show_border=true&link_opens_in_new_window=true" style="height: 240px; width: 120px;">
</iframe>
<span style="font-family: Helvetica;"><span style="font-size: 12px;"><br /></span></span><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/">www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com</span></a><br />
<br />
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-9168281329523111322014-05-01T07:54:00.002-07:002015-02-18T11:13:50.218-08:00What the heck is "Conscious Uncoupling"<br />
Recently Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced there divorce, calling it a conscious uncoupling. Not really a fan of Gwyneth, I had to ask, what the heck is conscious uncoupling?<br />
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
In the process, I came across an article containing valuable insights to think about when contemplating divorce and/or going through a divorce with child custody issues.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rebecca-bitton/5-inconvenient-truths-abo_b_5236603.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">5 Inconvenient Truths About Divorcing With Children</a><br />
<br /></div>
<div>
And, it turns out, that conscious uncoupling actually has meaning and can be a valuable concept to the extent that it is possible. Of course, if conscious uncoupling were easy, we wouldn't need so many divorce attorneys. Here are links to legitimate discussions of conscious uncoupling.</div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-sonya-rhodes/what-the-hell-is-consciou_b_5078066.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">What the Hell is Conscious Uncoupling Anyway?</a></div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<a href="http://evolvingwisdom.com/consciousuncoupling/free-online-class/" target="_blank">The Art of Conscious Uncoupling</a></div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<br /></div>
<div>
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993038">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
</div>
<div id="wrchoverdiv" style="display: none;">
<div id="wrccontainer">
<div id="wrcheader">
<div id="wrctitle">
WebRep</div>
</div>
<div class="wrchorizontal">
</div>
<div id="wrccurrentvote">
currentVote</div>
<div class="wrchorizontal">
</div>
<div id="wrcrating">
</div>
<div id="wrcratingtext">
noRating</div>
<div id="wrcweighttext">
noWeight</div>
<div id="wrcflags">
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_shopping">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_social">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_news">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_it">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_corporate">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_pornography">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_violence">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_gambling">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_drugs">
</div>
<div class="wrcicon" id="wrcicon_illegal">
</div>
</div>
<div class="wrchorizontal">
</div>
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-62628511251905789122014-04-30T12:14:00.000-07:002015-02-18T11:15:06.960-08:00Child Custody: What is a 730 Evaluation?<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Sometimes in divorces involving child custody, the
two parents are unable to agree what is in the best interests of their
children. In such cases, the
<a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">divorce attorneys</a> may recommend that the court order an evaluation to be
performed by a specialist, usually a psychologist or marriage and family
therapist, but sometimes a psychiatrist, from a list of professionals who have
completed specific additional training and been approved by the court. That expert is the court’s expert, not
on the side of either party.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Because this power to make such an order comes
from Section 730 of the California Evidence Code this is commonly called a 730
evaluation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">730 evaluations are not always necessary and they
are generally expensive and take a relatively long time to complete, so they
are generally used<b><span style="color: #5a532f;"> </span></b>only when parents
are failing to pro-actively resolve their conflicts and that comes out in parenting
issues. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Because of their expense and, sometimes, the
randomness of outcome, most people are better off dealing with their issues
together rather than rolling the dice on a 730 evaluation. Still, there are
times when it can lead to a lessening of conflict and it may be inevitable in
move away situations. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Forensic evaluations can be used in a number of
other settings as well, including valuing businesses or real estate. It is
extremely common in “move away cases” and a persuasive argument can be made
that to allow a parent to relocate with minor children in the absence of such a
report (if it is requested) violates the due process rights of the non-moving
parent [In re Marriage of McGinnis (1992) 7 Cal.App.4th 473, 9 Cal.Rptr. 2d
182]. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Generally the court appoints an evaluator that
has worked with the court before from the court’s approved list of experts and
generally because one or both divorce attorneys have requested the 730
evaluation and have worked with the expert in the past. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Often the parties' <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">divorce lawyers</a> will
agree upon an evaluator. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Reliable evaluators are not hired guns for either
side. However, like everyone else they can have their own biases. To the extent
that you can, it is always a good idea to get as much information as possible
about a potential evaluator before a selection is made.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">It can be very difficult for a judge to determine
the truth of claims between the parties in family law, what their underlying
motives are, whether there is some mental health or substance abuse
undercurrent, and whether one parent is more likely than the other to foster an
ongoing relationship between the other parent and their children. Courts don't
have the time or resources to invest in each of their cases and rely on witness
declarations or live testimony. Therapists and psychologists are able to spend
time interviewing parents and sometimes have them complete psychological
testing, they meet children, talk to teachers, visit homes, check with
therapists who are seeing family members, and also interview significant
others, new spouses, and other children in blended families. A much more
reliable picture may emerge than that which comes from the parties' own
descriptions of things. These custody evaluations can be quite expensive,
typically starting at about $3,500. They seem to average between $4,000 and
$6,000, but the costs skyrocket with the number of people other than the
parents themselves (often called 'collaterals') whose input is required. It
typically takes at least three months for an expert psychologist or MFT to
complete all the necessary interviews and write a detailed report. In my
experience the time frame is closer to four months. This report is then
submitted to the attorneys and to the Court.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Most courts require this report to be submitted
at least 10 days prior to a hearing, so that both sides have ample time to
review it. If you are involved in a custody dispute and you or your divorce attorney
receives the report late, if you disagree with its recommendations you may want
to object that you have not had sufficient time if you want a continuance;
otherwise, the Court may adopt the recommendations at that hearing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 11.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">In almost all cases where a 730 report has been
completed, either side may request that an evidentiary hearing take place with
live testimony and the ability to examine and cross-examine witnesses -
including the custody evaluator whose recommendations are being considered.
Depending upon the urgency of the family's issues and the Court's availability,
these hearings may not be set for weeks or months.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">In addition, if you feel that
the evaluator failed to adequately investigate the case, or did not meet the
standards of practice for such evaluations, you may want to consider hiring
your own expert under Evidence Code Section 733.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, the 733 expert is limited to reviewing the 730
report and underlying data and may not re-interview children and witnesses.
This can be an expensive way to challenge findings that you do not agree with
and the limitations on the 733 evaluators limit their usefulness.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<o:DocumentProperties>
<o:Template>Normal.dotm</o:Template>
<o:Revision>0</o:Revision>
<o:TotalTime>0</o:TotalTime>
<o:Pages>1</o:Pages>
<o:Words>777</o:Words>
<o:Characters>4433</o:Characters>
<o:Company>Law Office of Robert Beauchamp</o:Company>
<o:Lines>36</o:Lines>
<o:Paragraphs>8</o:Paragraphs>
<o:CharactersWithSpaces>5444</o:CharactersWithSpaces>
<o:Version>12.0</o:Version>
</o:DocumentProperties>
<o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
<o:AllowPNG/>
</o:OfficeDocumentSettings>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:WordDocument>
<w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom>
<w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves>
<w:TrackFormatting/>
<w:PunctuationKerning/>
<w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>
<w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>
<w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>
<w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/>
<w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>
<w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent>
<w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>
<w:Compatibility>
<w:BreakWrappedTables/>
<w:DontGrowAutofit/>
<w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/>
<w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/>
</w:Compatibility>
</w:WordDocument>
</xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
<w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276">
</w:LatentStyles>
</xml><![endif]-->
<!--[if gte mso 10]>
<style>
/* Style Definitions */
table.MsoNormalTable
{mso-style-name:"Table Normal";
mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0;
mso-tstyle-colband-size:0;
mso-style-noshow:yes;
mso-style-parent:"";
mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt;
mso-para-margin:0in;
mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt;
mso-pagination:widow-orphan;
font-size:12.0pt;
font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria;
mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast;
mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria;
mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;}
</style>
<![endif]-->
<!--StartFragment-->
<!--EndFragment--><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12.0pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Finally, while the judge in
your case must make his or her own decision and support it with evidence, the
recommendations of the 730 evaluator are most often adopted by the court. </span><br />
<br />
Here is a resource from a licensed therapist on <a href="http://in%20any%20case%2c%20when%20you%20are%20faced%20with%20a%20custody%20dispute%2c%20it%20is%20imperative%20that%20you%20have%20a%20competent%20divorce%20attorney%20with%20experience%20in%20child%20custody%20to%20help%20you%20understand%20and%20prepare%20for%20the%20730%20evaluation./" target="_blank">how to handle a 730 evaluation</a><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993049">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<br />
<br />
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-16984927932191933862014-04-25T10:08:00.001-07:002015-02-18T11:15:28.166-08:00How Much Spousal Support (Alimony) Will I Receive Or Be Required to Pay<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: medium;"><b>Spousal Support In California</b></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<span style="font-size: medium;"><b><br /></b></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
A primary job of <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">divorce attorneys</a> is to determine how to deal with spousal support.</div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
In California, and other community property states, spousal support (sometimes called alimony) is founded on the idea that a married couple builds a lifestyle together from community funds. When there is a divorce, the court may require higher earner (husband or wife) should assist the lower earner in maintaining their existing lifestyle for at least some period of time. California judges may award temporary support during divorce proceedings, as well as "permanent" support after a divorce is final. In both temporary and permanent support orders, one spousal is generally ordered to pay the other spouse a specific amount, generally monthly, for a specified time or until a later order. </div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
Sometimes, spousal support can be paid in a single lump-sum payment. And, spouses can agree between themselves on the terms and conditions of support payments. A court will uphold an agreement as long as it meets legal requirements, even if the agreement provides for a complete waiver of support to a lower-earning spouse.<br />
<br /></div>
<h2 style="font-family: Helvetica;">
How Long Does Spousal Support Continue?</h2>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
The duration of spousal support in California is often tied to the length of the marriage. After a marriage of less than 10 years, a court will not usually order support for longer than half the length of the marriage. If a marriage has lasted 10 years or longer, the court generally won’t set a definite termination date for support at the time of the divorce; both spouses retain the right to request modification indefinitely, unless they specifically agree to a termination date, or the court expressly terminates support at a later hearing.</div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
While courts and <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">divorce attorneys</a> often refer to post-divorce spousal support as "permanent," it is increasingly rare for a judge to order true permanent support, even after marriages of well over 10 years. California courts require a spouse seeking support to make efforts to become self-supporting, regardless of the length of a marriage. A spouse who claims an inability to work, or an inability to become fully employed, will have to support this claim with evidence, sometimes including a vocational evaluation. Long term support orders may reduce support gradually over time down to a nominal amount—such as $1.00 per year. True permanent spousal support is generally reserved for spouses who lack the ability to become self-supporting due to age or disability.<br />
<br /></div>
<h2 style="font-family: Helvetica;">
How Is The Amount Of Spousal Support Determined?</h2>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
In California, the purpose of temporary spousal support is to preserve the financial status quo to the greatest extent possible. Generally speaking, it is obvious to even the casual observer that this goal is impossible because it costs more to maintain two households than maintaining one household. As a result, the courts look to “equalize” the “net spendable” amount available to each party. A court may order temporary spousal support in any amount after considering the needs of the spouse requesting it and the other spouse’s ability to pay. In practice, however, courts commonly use formulas for calculating temporary support. The formula used by <a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank">divorce attorneys in Orange County</a>, California, is the the Santa Clara Formula, in which the court determines spousal support by subtracting 50% of the lower-earner’s net income from 40% of the higher earner’s, with adjustments for tax consequences and child support payments. Parents of dependent children can obtain a rough estimate of what temporary spousal support payments might look like along with child support payments—which follow very strict guidelines—by accessing the <a href="http://www.childsup.ca.gov/Resources/CalculateChildSupport.aspx" target="_blank">support calculator</a> (click on the link) at the California Department of Child Support.</div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
The purpose of support after a final divorce is to assist a supported spouse in maintaining a standard of living close to the marital standard. Again, this is impossible because two households are more expensive to maintain than one. </div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<br /></div>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
The goal, however, is for the supported spouse to become self-supporting to the greatest extent possible. Before ordering this kind of support, a court will consider the extent to which each spouse’s earning capacity is sufficient to maintain the marital standard of living, taking into account:</div>
<ul style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<li>the marketable skills of the supported spouse,</li>
<li>the job market for those skills,</li>
<li>any time or expense the supported spouse requires to acquire education or training for employment or enhanced employability, and</li>
<li>the extent to which periods of unemployment due to domestic duties during the marriage have impaired the supported spouse's present or future earning capacity.</li>
</ul>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
The court will also consider any other factors that may be relevant to the fairness of an award, including:</div>
<ul style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
<li>the extent to which the supported spouse contributed to the other spouse’s attainment of education, training, professional licensing or career advancement,</li>
<li>the ability of the supporting spouse to pay support, taking into account earning capacity, earned and unearned income, assets, and standard of living,</li>
<li>the needs of each party based on the marital standard of living,</li>
<li>each spouse’s obligations and assets, including separate property,</li>
<li>the duration of the marriage,</li>
<li>the ability of a spouse who is also a custodial parent to engage in gainful employment without unduly interfering with the interests of dependent children,</li>
<li>each spouse’s age and health,</li>
<li>any documented history of domestic violence by either spouse,</li>
<li>the immediate and specific tax consequences to each spouse,</li>
<li>the balance of the hardships to each spouse, and</li>
<li>the goal that the supported spouse will be self-supporting within a reasonable period of time—presumed to be one-half the length of a marriage unless the marriage was longer than 10 years.</li>
</ul>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
California courts don’t ordinarily consider conduct in determining support, but a court won’t usually award support to a spouse who has acted extremely violently toward the other spouse.<br />
<br /></div>
<h2 style="font-family: Helvetica;">
Modification Or Termination Of Spousal Support</h2>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
Unless the couple has a written agreement not to seek changes in spousal support in court, either spouse can request modification or termination of periodic payments due to a material change in circumstances. Absent a written agreement stating otherwise, spousal support terminates on the death of either spouse, or on the remarriage of the recipient. There is a rebuttable presumption that a party who is cohabiting with a new partner has a reduced need for support.<br />
<br /></div>
<h2 style="font-family: Helvetica;">
Tax Effects Of Spousal Support</h2>
<div style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 13px;">
Periodic spousal support payments are usually taxable to the recipient and tax-deductible by the payer. Couples who are able to craft their own settlement agreements can sometimes take advantage of this situation by structuring payments to create the best possible tax scenario for both spouses. If structured properly, there will generally be no tax consequences of a single lump-sum support payment.<br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993053">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-27481531284710128892014-04-23T16:04:00.001-07:002015-02-18T11:15:54.288-08:00Student Loans in Divorce (from the Wall Street Journal)<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">An excellent article in the Wall Street Journal on the allocation of student debt in divorce that every divorce lawyer should read.<br /><br />
Summary of student debt in divorce cases:<br /><br />
Generally, educational debt incurred before a marriage is considered separate property and barring some predetermined contractual agreement, it stays that way after a divorce. "My law-school-loan debt is forever mine.” "No spouse will ever be liable" for it.<br /><br />
Debt division can get a little trickier when the student loans
are taken out during the marriage. The person responsible for paying the loans
isn't necessarily the person whose name is on them. Indeed, how educational
debt is divided may depend on where you live and who benefited from the
borrowed money.<br /><br />
In many states, divorce courts have the discretion to divide
marital property in a holistic way. That means that if the educational debt is
considered marital property, they have the option of taking into account
contextual issues, such as each spouse's ability to pay it off.<br /><br />
So while student loans generally will go to the person who
incurred them, there may be exceptions.<br /><br />
For example, if it seems
like one spouse will have high income after a divorce and another will struggle
to make debt payments, the higher earner may end up having to fork over some
temporary spousal support to cover the ex's debt payments.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">The entire article is </span><a href="http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702304626804579363253873904162" target="_blank">here.</a><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993058">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="http://www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com/" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">www.missionviejodivorceattorneys.com</span></a><br />
<br />
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
#divorcelawyer #divorceattorney #divorce #familylawAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-51998714156985983482014-04-22T11:24:00.000-07:002015-02-18T11:16:27.370-08:00How is child support calculated?<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">California courts (and divorce lawyers advising you) look at two basic factors (though others may come into play) to calculate child support:</span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">1. Each parent's gross income; and</span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">2. The time spent by each parent with the child/children (you will sometime hear this called the "J" Factor).</span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are other factors that can impact child support including child care expenses, home mortgage payments, tax filing status, and other costs that determine the family's financial situation.</span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b>All California judges and courts follow the same guidelines </b>(though there are differences among counties in calculating spousal support). </span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">The formula is shockingly complicated and divorce lawyers and courts utilize a computer program called a Dissomaster<i>TM</i> to calculate monthly child support payments. </span><br />
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">You and your spouse are responsible for providing the information to your divorce lawyer the information used to calculate support. You will provide this information to your divorce lawyer on a form called and Income and Expense Declaration (you'll often hear this referred to as an "I & E." Your family law attorney will negotiate certain items with your spouse's counsel to ensure the proper child and/or spousal support is paid/received each month.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Child support continues until the child is 18 (or 19 if the child is still in high school full-time and living with a parent). </span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">If you feel your child support amounts should be re-calculated, The Law Office of Robert R. Beauchamp can help. Give us a call at 949-370-8000.</span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></div>
<div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">If you are looking to get an idea of what your child support might be, the State of California has an online calculator useful in getting an estimate of the support in your particular case. Here is a link to the State's <a href="https://www.cse.ca.gov/ChildSupport/cse/guidelineCalculator" target="_blank">Calculator</a>.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993062">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a><br />
#divorcelawyer #divorceattorney #divorce #familylaw</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-24781481043388978152014-04-21T15:36:00.001-07:002015-02-18T11:16:50.343-08:00For Richer, For Poorer-Changes in Views on Spousal Support (Alimony)Below is an in depth and fascinating article from the Wall Street Journal on huge changes in views on long-term spousal support, something that all divorce lawyers should read.<br />
<br />
<a href="http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052748703399204574505700448957522">http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052748703399204574505700448957522</a><br />
<br />
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993067">w</a></span><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/"><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">ww.ocdlaw.co</span><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">m</span></a></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-8192913159779681102014-04-21T10:39:00.002-07:002015-02-18T11:17:24.121-08:00Just a little humor about divorce attorneys<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<br /></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<br /></div>
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<br /></div>
<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnzs1_cWbWlzCCQ9__-p_tCtNgPfR-0SNEnQOQe0OsqIitgeUP2-71mMM32NvvGnxb1xs3rtFozpS1Cgo_zy0LFuvD2sBHzeFAxsHqrrjQWzYyLNqr90ozahiHgkKl_UkSOjGbBqnUcyc/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-04-18+at+9.06.12+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhnzs1_cWbWlzCCQ9__-p_tCtNgPfR-0SNEnQOQe0OsqIitgeUP2-71mMM32NvvGnxb1xs3rtFozpS1Cgo_zy0LFuvD2sBHzeFAxsHqrrjQWzYyLNqr90ozahiHgkKl_UkSOjGbBqnUcyc/s1600/Screen+Shot+2014-04-18+at+9.06.12+PM.png" height="240" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">This is all too true!</td></tr>
</tbody></table>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993073">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-23332374202957208602014-04-21T09:42:00.002-07:002015-02-18T11:18:12.952-08:00What is court ordered child custody mediation and what effect does it have on the final custody arrangement?<blockquote>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In any divorce, legal separation, paternity action or any other type of case in which custody or visitation is in dispute, the court must refer the matter to the County’s mediation service. In other words, the Court provides what is intended to be a qualified child custody mediator to mediate these issues. In most California counties, attorneys are not allowed to be present during the mediation process. During the mediation, the mediator's role to use his or her best efforts to encourage an agreement between the parents regarding child custody in accordance with what the mediator feels is in the best interest of the child or children.</span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In some counties, if an agreement is not reached, the mediator will make a recommendation to the Court. At that time, either party may request that the recommendation be made an order of the Court. Either party may also dispute the recommendation and request a hearing. No agreement or recommendation is legally effective between the parties unless it has been made an order of the Court. The mediator may interview the child or children during this process.</span></div>
</blockquote>
<blockquote style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If an agreement is reached in mediation, the agreement is reduced to writing and sent to the court.</span></blockquote>
<blockquote style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In Orange County, if the parties fail to reach an agreement on child custody through mediation, either party my refuse to allow the mediator to share the mediator’s opinions with the court. If you do not want the mediator to share his or her opinions with the court, you must indicate your preference in writing on a form provided after the mediation concludes. If either party declines to allow the child custody mediator to share his or her opinions with the court, the mediator will simply notify the court the fact that the parties have or have not reached an agreement on child custody.</span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you have additional questions, give us a call at (949) 370-8000, check our website at </span><a href="http://www.ocdlaw.com/"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">w</span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">ww.ocdlaw.com</span></a><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.ocdlaw.com/"> </a>or our google page at: </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="https://plus.google.com/107751038824543608718/posts?hl=en">https://plus.google.com/107751038824543608718/posts?hl=en</a></span><br />
<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-line-break: after-white-space; -webkit-nbsp-mode: space; font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 12px; word-wrap: break-word;">
<div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium; margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993083">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span></div>
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: medium;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span></div>
<br />
<div style="font-family: Times; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1109893343694854289.post-73234419687509180612014-04-21T03:10:00.000-07:002015-02-18T11:18:52.168-08:00Welcome to our new blog for answers to divorce and custody questionsWelcome to our blog. As a divorce lawyer in Orange County, California, working on cases involving divorce, child custody, child support, spousal support, domestic violence, we have found that there are some questions that almost always come up. Those questions are usually variations of:<br />
<br />
1. How much time will I get with my children?<br />
<br />
2. How much child support can I expect to receive or how much child support will I be ordered to pay?<br />
<br />
3. Does the fact that one party was unfaithful (cheated) affect my case?<br />
<br />
4. Can my husband or wife move away with my children?<br />
<br />
5. How long will it take to complete my divorce?<br />
<br />
This blog will, over time, attempt to give some general answers to these and other questions. With time, we hope that this blog will become a useful archive of answers to these and other questions. So thank you for checking in.<br />
<br />
Check our official website at <a href="http://www.ocdlaw.com/"><span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">w</span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">ww.ocdlaw.com</span></a>, our Facebook page at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/orangecountydivorceattorney">https://www.facebook.com/orangecountydivorceattorney</a>, and our Google page at: <a href="https://plus.google.com/107751038824543608718/posts?hl=en">https://plus.google.com/107751038824543608718/posts?hl=en</a><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">By: Robert R. Beauchamp <a href="https://www.blogger.com/goog_1295993087">w</a></span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><a href="http://ww.ocdlaw.com/">ww.ocdlaw.com</a></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Law Office of Robert R Beauchamp</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">bob@ocdlaw.com</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">23120 Alicia Pkwy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Second Floor</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Mission Viejo, CA 92692</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Tel: 949-370-8000</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;">Fax: 855-370-8100</span><br />
<br />
<br />
<div style="font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 18px;">
</div>
<br />
<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px;">
<span style="font-family: Times, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0px;"></span><a href="http://www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com/" target="_blank">www.southorangecountydivorcelawyers.com</a></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17587584875309685489noreply@blogger.com0